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Anitra Brown

Lingam Massage: Spas in the Philippines Are Different

By August 1, 2010

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If you go to spas in the U.S., there are certain things you expect -- robes, hot tea, and careful draping during your massage so that no skin is ever exposed. So it's interesting to travel around the world, where spas are different. For instance, Cebu City, an island province of the Philippines, is considering banning lingam massage. (In case you don't know your Sanskrit, lingam is the word for the male "wand of light" - or penis.) It's legal, and so popular that tour operators with customers mostly from Japan, Korea and China are including lingam massage as a must-do stop on the tour.

Honey Yoo and Bella Bilocura, owners of Authentic Lingam Massage, told the Cebu Daily News last year that lingam massage is just another way to soothe and relax the client, and a widely accepted form of wellness practiced in New York and California, among other places! (It may be....but not legally!)

August 1, 2010 at 11:20 pm
(1) Glenn says:

Hi Anitra,

Interesting that you have to go to a relatively obscure part of the world to find this practice. It’s definitely a form of sexual stimulation, and should only find it’s place under a regime of regulated adult entertainment. It has no place in a professional day spa.

August 2, 2010 at 3:41 am
(2) Ritchie D. Nolasco-Gonzaga says:

I think Lingam massage, which I give to my husband, is legitimate. The problem here in Cebu is that moralists and politicians do not do any real research and act with haste most of the time. They do not realize the essence of Lingam massage, Yoni massage (which I bet they do not even know about), etc.

On top of that, the Spa & Wellness Association of Cebu (SWAC) is doing a deceptive campaign against it because its member spas are losing money to Lingam spas. The SWAC is desperate and the best way they could come up to survive is to kill their competitors through government intervention.

The president of the SWAC is himself a spa owner, and he lost a lot of money as some of his spas closed down.

August 5, 2010 at 12:36 am
(3) tess says:

I don’t think this people who do Lingam massage are certified by the DOH of the Philippines, their doing it to attract clients. I am also a massage/reflexology therapist
and I have a passion of helping people to ease their pain, relax and to release the stress.
For some who wanted money only they will do all the tricks to attract clients. I don’t think all parts of Cebu is doing it and it so sad to hear this kind of news. So bad….

August 6, 2010 at 7:22 pm
(4) Bella says:

They call it lingam massage. We call it a happy ending. Available at sleazy massage parlors throughout the US.

August 19, 2010 at 4:30 pm
(5) Randy says:

Seems the most condemning comments here are from women. Don’t like the competition from Lingam spas, huh?

November 26, 2010 at 6:30 am
(6) Diggy says:

Lingam massage. It MIGHT be accepted somewhere else but not on OTHER places. Its just the same as saying, one man’s food might be another man’s poison, right? Not all things applicable to a certain country or place may also be applicable to other. There are diversity which we need to respect. Diversity of culture and practices where it is a battle between morality and practicability. Hope it cleared everybody’s mind somehow.

August 5, 2011 at 12:49 am
(7) Richard says:

Very interesting that so few who post have any idea what this is. A lingam massage is meant to release stress but not sperm. Therefore there is no happy ending but clearly to an inexperienced receiver of this massage it can happen. It is absolutely not sleazy but part of a spiritual ritual. Shame that everybody thinks the worst just because there is mention of penis and massage…

October 21, 2011 at 2:22 am
(8) j swarford says:

i dont see what all the fuss is about!!

a normal massage involves touching most parts of the body. Lingam includes the penis. Its still a part of the body like any else. big deal.

November 2, 2011 at 11:33 pm
(9) Graham says:

OK so you ban it. It will go underground and come up somewhere else with maybe some shady undertones. It becomes a crime and criminals get involved.

Rather control that it does not involve penetration of the therapist. Its a real art and a trained therapist can give a guy an experience which goes beyond just getting a release of semen. The guy can go away realising that there can be more to his sexual energy and she does not need to spread her legs.

Otherwise he goes to a bar and gets a woman who only knows how to spread her legs and she gets abused.

December 26, 2011 at 5:35 pm
(10) Art says:

Once again, the anti-sexual Christian moralists try to force their own views on others.

Did it ever occur to them *why* there’s so much sleaze in our societies? It’s because we’ve all been taught by the churches that sex, in itself, is “sinful.”

Thus, we humans–who weren’t built to do without sex–honor those teachings by practicing our sexuality sleazily, to show just how exploitative, sinful and ugly it is.

The greatest irony is that if sex was taught to be the natural and joyful energy it is, the sleazy aspects would disappear from our cultures, and the great majority of us would practice it innocenlty and joyfully, with little wish to exploit anyone else for our own satisfaction.

In short: the churches aren’t the opponents of sleaze–on the contrary, they *created* sleaze.

April 23, 2012 at 12:35 am
(11) James says:

If any of you had ever bothered to get a lingam or yoni (for women) you would realize the only sleazy and immoral thing might be the giver. In a genuine setting, this form of massage is not meant to be sexual but an extreme release of tension and stress that a body massage cannot completely accomplish.

Unfortunately, most westerners are closed minded to everything that doesn’t come with a pre-approved stamp by the government.

Take my word for it when I say more U.S. spas are sleazy than Asian spas. Trust me, I’ve lived and experienced both sides of the Pacific Ocean.

April 30, 2012 at 4:07 pm
(12) Craig says:

The most unfortunate thing is all religions oppose sexual acts of this kind except Tantra teachings (tantric sex). Sex is a must like food for the body, when lingam massage isn’t all about Hand Job then this should be encouraged everywhere. No amount of body massage can make you feel as good as a good massage on your genitals, so no hypocrisy to our own self by getting massaged everywhere & leaving the prime spot. We would be fooling ourselves, it is like bathing but not pouring water on head.

July 2, 2012 at 9:28 pm
(13) Globetrotter says:

This is so much BS. I have travelled around the globe for the last 35 years and have always asked for a massage after I check in a 5star hotel. The girls come, give you a massage, ask you if you want a happy ending, if you say yes, then they either masturbate you or give you a blow job (depends how much you pay) and make you climax. You can call it any fancy name but that is what it really is…. good massage followed by a climax.

October 7, 2012 at 2:10 am
(14) mickey says:

I am a lawyer in the PH… better get your facts straight… its illegal…. there is no specific law banning lingam.. but we have provisions in our Revised Penal Code which prohibits obscenity.. Nonetheless, I do admit these spas exist in the PH.. the same way prostitution and drug trafficking do.. lingam just happens to have a good cover… The question of this being immoral or not is debatable… but answering whether it is illegal or not, yes it is…

December 27, 2012 at 12:59 am
(15) philip anthony perez says:

Hey mickey.,…a LAWYER of the PH….you dont have to brag about your profession, coz it only makes you sound gay…hehe

January 3, 2013 at 7:56 am
(16) Ben says:

Funny to read all the comments about lingam and yoni massage.
I live in Denmark and part time i work and live in Bangkok.
I have also been to the Phillipins many times and have had both thai and fillipina girl friends.So i have some experience with what goes on in the spa and wellness centers in Asia. Therefore i can`t really understand all that writing for and against lingam or yoni massage and what the problems is! it happens all over if you want to have it – also in Europe – but the big different is, that most western woman are not good at it. the cam masturbate or give you a blow job. But that is nothing compared with a real and good lingam massage. Is is a bit stupid that adult people in the year 2013 can have anything against that kind of massage. It is okay to get massage all over your body but the on the genitalia parts is for many people not acceptable – either because of religion or because of the law! Come on – lingam and yoni massage is not a new thing, it goes many generations back – so come on and face the reality. what voluntarily goes on behind closed doors between adult people is completely up to them. It has nothing to do with religon or laws.
To the women and men you haven`t tried it can i only say – poor you!
By the way – do you why the bride always smiles when she walk up to the altar to get married? Because she know that she have done her last blow job! Happy New Year.

March 26, 2013 at 6:55 pm
(17) ileto says:

Be careful getting linggam massage, you might end up with venereal warts or even Herpes!

It’s the same as rub and thug…

April 19, 2013 at 7:30 pm
(18) Bob says:

Penal code? Seriously? You wrote penal code on this blog with a straight face? It occurs to me that is an ironic reference to the law in this instance. Vaginally speaking, of course.

May 28, 2013 at 2:56 am
(19) bill posters says:

In London we just call it a “wank”

January 28, 2014 at 3:07 pm
(20) Lisa masseuse says:

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