My brother Graydon Wesley Brown was killed by a stray bullet from a gang shooting while he was in a Best Buy in Tulsa, Oklahoma, last Saturday. He and his ten-year-old daughter were standing inside the store, looking at DVDs. They had just purchased a birthday present for his wife, and were on their way out.
A gunman had followed a gang member from a nearby mall. In what is thought to be a revenge killing, the gunman shot the intended victim several times as he and his brother were entering a store. The gunman also tried to kill the victim's brother, and one of those bullets pierced my brother's chest. He was the classic innocent bystander, and my family is devastated.
I never imagined I would lose my brother so early in life, and in this way. It made think about all the people I have met over the years who have relied on spas to help them deal with terrible grief. I met a widow at Canyon Ranch Lenox who spent months there after her husband died unexpectedly, because it was the only place where she felt loved and supported. She came back every year on the anniversary of his death to help her through the hard time.
A young woman who lost her husband to war came with her best friend to a spa that held very powerful, authentic sweat lodges. She told us why she was there in the lodge, and it helped them both bond and deal with the grief. It made me realize why some of the best destination spas, like Miraval and Canyon Ranch, have professionals who can help you deal with psychological issues, including death of a loved one.
A spa could also be a respite for an afternoon, a place you go to retreat for the afternoon, to be cared for, and have your spirit and body tended to. And when this is all over, I'm sure I'll be going there.