I've been sleeping a lot since I got home from three weeks in Oklahoma, where I was dealing with the terrible aftermath of my brother's death from a shooting at a Best Buy in Tulsa. At first I felt guilty. I wasn't sure if I was seeking the healing power of sleep, or being self-indulgent.
I've come down on the side of the healing power of sleep. Today I woke up and still had the same thought I've had every day since July 14: "Is Wesley really dead? Yes. Yes, he is." But when I started moving around I felt pretty good, instead of in a fog.
I never realized how hard it is to think when you have a shock to your system like the sudden and violent death of a loved one. And extra sleep is what my brain needs to recover. I don't have to judge myself because we live in a crazy, sleep-deprived culture.
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Anitra, I am not sure whether this is your post or another’s but either way I just want to add that I am so sorry for your loss and what you are dealing with in the aftermath..Last year I lost my fiance to a heart attack in his sleep..it seemed that I would never know peace of mind or smile again..I was devastated…..completely…I allowed myself the grief..there was no getting around it and all of the emotions that came with it..A wise friend who has had her fair share of grief told me to let it be and feel the emotions..so I did and now a year later it is easier..You have an additional burden with the circumstances of your brother’s death, a bunch more anger I am sure…but eventually you will forgive and move on..Wesley would only have ever wanted that for you, I’m sure sweetie..Sleep is one of the greatest healers of all at this time..since our conscious mind is in overwhelm..I slept a lot for months and months and allowed it..I am so glad I did because it brought the balance I needed to cope….Well it will be a year on Aug.29th and I feel pretty ‘normal’ again..huray for that and am finding my joy again in the simplest of things…Your time wil come dear one, just be patient and oh so kind with yourself..you have had a deep shock on all levels..time will heal when you allow it agfter the initial shock is somewhat less…Fondest love to you, I will hold you in my heart and prayers and all of your loved ones who have had to deal with this…much much love, Wendy and Cookie Cat xoxoxoxox